I admit it. Don't judge me. I'm a little ashamed, since I am the girl who openly fears all things domestically related, like marriage. I enjoy watching the Bachelorette. In fact, I never miss an episode.
I have never gotten into the show until this season. Why am I glued to my TV on Monday nights? It's because this time, it's like watching a train wreck and you just can't seem to pull your eyes away from what you know is going to occur.... she's gonna fall for the bad boy and I'm gonna be screaming "you stupid girl" into my pillow [neighbors may get a little worried if the screams are not buffered].
She makes the common mistake that every girl makes, or has made. The mistake is wanting "That Guy". He's the guy who is aloof, [I'm referring to Wes, if it's not obvious] who is indifferent, who shows restraint, who can't really give himself completely to her. She's the girl who wants to believe that she can change him and make him fall for her. Um, sweetie, ummm hi, it's not happenin'.
It's annoying, and maybe it's because I've been there. I see the neediness in her body language, it even seeps out of her pores. He is the boy that has made her cry. He is the boy that tells her, not in words but in actions, I'm taken. He is the boy that says, my life and my career will always come first. Yet, he is the boy that still gets the damn rose.
I continue to watch as poor naive Bachelorette girl, who came looking for love, lets all of these sweet perfect GOOD guys slip through her fingers as she holds on in hope that the bad boy will change his ways. He won't, not for you anyway.
When you date a few of these naughty men, that I have described above, you begin to alter your idea of what you are looking for. For me, I want my bff that just happens to be my bf, who I just happen to be sharing my bed with (if you catch my drift). It's that simple. Your bff is not going to toy with your emotions, is not going to hide things from you, and is not going to keep himself from you. My Mom once told me that your boyfriend, fiance or husband, should go above and beyond what your best girlfriend would do. My gf's are pretty amazing, my standards are pretty high. I hope you raise yours, beautiful Jillian.
Hey i just wanted to say i love your blog and love reading your entries, especially the one where youtre talking about your ex and the whole 'cold turkey' process. I couldn't agree more, great blog!!
Thanks! I'm glad you enjoy reading it!