I'm taking a much needed break from studying. My classes are tough this semester. And while I love to write, when it is forced, it isn't fun.
I had an infinitely good weekend. I went to a great party where I saw some old friends and made some new friends. I danced hard at Continental. I drank Ice House, smoked a Marlboro red and did Jello shots. I laughed my ass off. Wore the most amazing skirt. I felt like I was in high school again.
I went out for drinks last night. Dating is strange. You sit across from each other and judge the shit out of the other person, wondering if there is the potential of mating with this person for life. I'm not big on dating, normally. It seems so forced and expectations are often too high. Aside from Mr. South Korea Teacher (the anomaly), most guys never make it past the first one on one date with me. I often date because I end up making the most amazing friends. Almost all of my great dude friends have resulted from a first date gone wrong, I am grateful, however, that they still want to hang with me as friends.
There has to be some sort of casualness about the entire thing. I'm not really interested in what you do, how much money you make, how often you have to wash your beamer; it's all about being real for me. My extreme hippy views do not care about any of this. My only requirements is that you be witty and intelligent, that's really it. If you can't banter with me and hold your own against me, I get bored quickly.
Requirement number two... Please don't ask me what my favorite book is. It's like asking someone to choose their favorite $100 bill. I read a lot and if you don't know who James Joyce is, this conversation is probably going to not end well, so let's not talk "books", ok thanks.
Also, don't be so overly excited about me, just be yourself. I wish I could stress this more. I go into a date just being me, if you don't like it, then I saved myself a lot of time and energy. Do the same. I like to think of myself as a prize, and you should too, and that way we are on equal playing fields. When you feel good about yourself and I feel good about myself, things go better.
I often feel like I should come in with a disclaimer, when I go in on these things. I'm not girly, I'm dudeish. I don't want flowers. I want to hang and be buddies and have fun. Relax. That's all.