She brought this boy of hers to me, telling him he had to pass the approval of two of the toughest most important people in her life... her Dad (rough and rugged, a scary guy) and me (soft, sweet, and small). He starts off the initial meeting by buying me my favorite beer, hugs me, I shoot him a line of sarcasm and he takes it with a sense of humor. I watch the way he looks at her and decide he is good and I am satisfied with this union.
I like that she found him. They were two people who wanted the same thing. Two people who were tired of the dating scene, two people who probably passed each other a million times at the gym, two people who just wanted to find someone and they just fit and instantly worked. It just was simple and not complicated, so utterly easy.
I was thinking back to when she started dating him and she imparted these wise words: if you have to seek out the advice of your girlfriends about your boy, he's probably not the guy for you. It's simple and true. It means there is comfort and trust already established in the relationship and no need for outside opinions not even from your best friends.
I remember the years I watched her date various guys, I sat with her for hours over drinks discussing the behavior of the guys she was dating and/or why they were acting a certain way, and she probably knew they weren't right for her, but her ego wanted justification.
With her fiance I have never once had her ask me what to do when he does this or what does it mean when he does that. We've never pondered over the intricacies of his inner mind and how it works. We never hashed out his motivations for his actions. To me, this means it's the real deal. Simple and easy love, just how it should be.
So, this V-Day blog post is for my bff and her man. So happy to see her happy with someone that makes her happy. I love love.
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